“Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”
Crystals for Heartbreak
Cleopatra is alleged to have revered rose quartz crystals for their heart and wombspace-soothing properties, but there are many crystals whose magic can be harnessed in times of emotional need. Traditionally, there are certain stones for specific emotional ailments (rose quartz serving as the perfect example in matters of the heart) but the reality is that any crystal can be worked with. There is no wrong here, so let that liberate you.
Rose quartz has always been dubbed the Love Stone due to its rosy hue, as this colour corresponds to the heart chakra and wombspace.
Chakras are energy centres of the body, observed in Eastern medicine. Think of them as organs within a network of rivers and tributaries, no different to a circulatory system. You have an entire energy body operating similarly to a physical one - it is subject to ebbs and flows and blockages. It needs maintaining and caring for, just as your corporeal self does, otherwise it falls out of alignment. In fact, the belief that physical wellness is rooted in emotional and energetic wellness is widespread and becoming increasingly popular. Disease comes from dis-ease in life. When we are truly centred and find harmony in our emotional self, the physical self follows suit and finds its flow. When we live in alignment with our Truth, with the essence of Life, we find flow. This is the ancient Chinese philosophy of the Dao. We find happiness and happiness is health.
Aside from rose quartz, there are other crystals that would be beneficial presences in the home when navigating a breakup. Apophyllite is the stone for releasing trauma and working through painful emotions, so this is top of our list. Apophyllite crystal is one of our favourites for this reason, but also for its sheer beauty. There is an ethereal, radiant quality to apophyllite. The way in which light travels through its crystalline walls is special. There is something sacred to these stones, which is why they say that angels gather close by.
Clear quartz would be wonderful when removing someone toxic from your life, or simply cleansing your space and field of stagnant energy, old emotional clutter you no longer need. Unburden yourself, release. Surrender the pain to the universe. Clear quartz crystals are the cleansers and Master Healers of the crystal kingdom, so with them, you'll be in good hands.
Pink amethyst, being the colour of the heartspace, is a tonic to the energy here, as well as being soothing for the energy of the wombspace (even if you don't have one). Metaphysically, this crystal is rooted in compassion and hums with the frequency of true love, so its presence in your life and space would be most welcome at a time of love loss and heartbreak.
How to Use Crystals During Heartbreak
There is no correct way to work with crystals. Be it a focal point for meditation, a comfort under the pillow at night, or a power-kick when popped into bras and pockets before leaving the house, a crystal undeniably offers a lot of magic. At times of heartbreak and emotional ebbs, we like to meditate with Nina from Yiflow on our Instagram and place a crystal either on the chest, when in savasana (lying down), or in both palms, when seated. Allow the energy of the selected stones to wash over and through you - the chakras on the palms are directly connected to the heart chakra, making this a very powerful placement of crystals. Work with a pinky-red or green coloured stone for maximum heart chakra energy.
Another way in which you can work through a breakup with the aid of crystals is to create a crystal grid with one of our SPiRitual Kits, designed lovingly with relationships and love at the heart of it: see Heartspace.
Lastly, sleeping with a crystal close to the bed or beneath it, and even under the pillow, can be really comforting during times of restlessness and breakup-induced anxiety. When you're lying in bed, waiting for sleep to visit, place it on your chest and allow the weight of it resting there to permeate your heartspace. Visualise your heart chakra as a glowing orb of soft pink light, filling up and expanding, brighter and brighter, the more energy you receive from the crystal. You can even weave in positive, healing affirmations, such as "I am worthy of love," "I am whole," "I have all I need."
Remember, you can do no wrong here. Always go for the crystals that call to you, and they will. Go for what you gravitate towards and feel your way with this. Whichever speaks to you and makes your heart flutter is intended for you. This is your intuition speaking. Be open. Heed it. Heal.
May you find the resilience and strength to journey through this. May angels support and guide you in the form of family, friends, or flowers and pets. May you know kindness. May you grow profoundly as a person for having experienced this. May you see the opportunity in the breakage, the blessings in disguise. May you receive light where there are shadows. Do not fear the lessons; do not fear the dark, for beautiful things grow there. Trust yourself. Trust the process. Trust time. May love always find you.